“I like to see you move with the rhythm; I like to see when you’re dancing’ from within” – Bob Marley
Much of my message is about flow and how we as moms can better live in our flow in every area of our lives. So when I talk about flow I am talking about rhythm, which is your natural, authentic way of being in the world that is in harmony and in sync with your values and vision for your life. It’s when who you are and what you do is aligned with your higher self which is aligned with the divine energy of the Universe.
I personally have found that some of my biggest struggles and challenges in life have stemmed from simply being out of sync with my own rhythm or not being able to stay in my flow when I’m in it and I’m sure many of you have struggled with the same thing.
But how exactly do you find your rhythm and stay in it once you find it?
I’m not a big fan of routine. I’m just too much of a free spirit.
But I do realize that because life has a natural rhythm and flow to it, in order to be in sync with it, you often have to have healthy routines and self-care rituals, in other words, a daily practice that grounds and connects you to that rhythm.
For example, going to bed at the same time every night and getting eight-ten hours of sleep, meditating for at least ten minutes every day at the same time, having a bedtime ritual, writing in a journal every day, watering the flowers, or doing yoga. These are all examples of a daily practice or self-care ritual.
With all the complexities and distractions in life this is often easier said than done but I say starting here and now let’s all commit to doing three self-care rituals or practices – one in the morning, one in the afternoon and one in the evening, that connects you to your inner most self and helps you tap into your natural rhythm in life.
Make your daily practice something that is simple, easy and realistic to do and takes just a few seconds or minutes. You don’t want to feel overwhelmed by this or like you don’t have the time to fit it in.
Also, make it personal and something that feels completely authentic. You can do the same thing three times a day if that feels right to you. For instance, you can choose to take five to ten long, deep breaths at the same time each day three times a day. Breathing deeply is one of the most grounding exercises you can do; or you can switch it up and do three different rituals in the course of your day, for example, deep breathing in the morning, yoga or simple stretching in the afternoon, and journaling or meditation at night.
I personally practice Transcendental Meditation twice a day. I also fix myself a green smoothie in the mornings and at night I take a candlelit shower. When I do all three of these or some other combination of self-care practices, it’s a good day and I feel more grounded and in my rhythm. When I have days where I feel out of sorts and things are just off for me I can clearly point to the fact that I did not do anything in my arsenal of daily practices or self-care rituals.
Other suggestions or simple ideas for a daily practice are to: light a candle, write a haiku, take a bath, be still for five minutes, read something inspirational for ten minutes, write for three minutes in a journal, just letting the words flow freely. In her book, The Artist’s Way, Julie Cameron calls this exercise Morning Pages but you can also do them in the evening as a way to empty your mind for the day. Watching the sunrise and/or sunset is also an excellent way to be in sync with the rhythm of the Universe. And one of my favorites is taking a walk along the beach or in the park. Communing with nature is tremendously powerful in connecting ourselves to the flow of the Universe.
The goal is to allow your life to be anchored by these simple rituals and practices so that you can quickly discern when your life is off balanced and out of sorts and when it is not in sync with your higher self, which easily happens when you’re all over the place and flying through life by the seat of your pants with no harness to keep you connected to what’s truly important and right for you. This is what a daily practice will do for you. It will keep you anchored to your best self.
Just know and trust that as these daily practices, these acts of connection and grounding become more ingrained in your daily life you will eventually find that your life is a dance of both well choreographed and impromptu movements of what feels most authentic and in sync with the flow of the Universe in each moment. And well, once you find your rhythm and stay in it more often than not there’ll be no stopping you, the possibilities in your life will be endless.
What daily practices or self-care rituals do you do to ground yourself and get in your rhythm? If you aren’t doing anything right now what can you starting doing immediately to ground you in the rhythm of your life? Please share below and know that I’m dancing with you.