“If you are the only one getting in your own way of going after your dreams, stop and realize that you are the last person who should be doing that!” — C.C. Chapman
Make Shit Happen!
Cindy Gallop, the visionary behind the website IfWeRanTheWorld, which was created to get people and corporations off their butts and make shit happen, says that, “the single biggest pool of untapped natural resource in this world, is human good intentions that never translate into action.” I couldn’t agree more.
I know personally this is true for me. I have had good intentions to do all kinds of BIG stuff and haven’t done most of it. Part of the problem is that I get in my own way by letting my fears stop me from putting myself out there. I let the perfectionist in me keep me from trying for fear of making mistakes and failing or being criticized and judged – telling myself I can’t do something unless I have it all figured out and can nail it – it being whatever I want to achieve. Excuses. Excuses. Excuses. It’s all bullshit.
First of all, we all make mistakes, we all fail from time to time, we all get judged and criticized. There’s no getting around that so I might as well get over it and do what I feel called to do. And you should too.
Walk Through Your Fears
Even when it came to launching this website and offering coaching services, which I’ve wanted to do for who knows how long I kept putting it off because I didn’t think I was ready to start it until I had official training, until I had done a certain amount of pre-launch promotion, until I got the design just right, until I had a certain number of posts already written and so on. I had a bazillion excuses.
I kept setting deadlines to start which came and went. Then I finally realized that I was never going to start it if I didn’t just do it NOW ready or not. I decided that I would get it going and it would have to be a work in progress. That I would improve on it as I went, learn as I go and let it develop organically without having it all figured out. I finally took my good intentions off the shelf and just started it. It’s not perfect but at least it’s out in the world. And I will keep showing up, ready to serve those you find and need me.
The next big intention I had to take off the shelf is my intention to finish writing a digital guidebook. Hopefully those of you reading this will support me on this journey of being a writer which I had intended to be for years but never had the courage to act on or fully embrace. Now I do and there’s no looking back. I’m scared of course but I’m doing it anyway despite my fears and that’s what you have to do too – move through your fears and act on your intentions.
In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.” She also advises us to “Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.” I so agree.
So I ask you – What fears do you need to stare in the face and walk through? What BIG stuff are you dreaming of? And how do you intend to make it happen?
And I know you’re probably thinking that you make shit happen everyday by raising your children, working full or part-time, taking care of your home and managing the countless responsibilities you have on your plate. But I’m not talking about the things you HAVE to do. I’m talking about the things you WANT to do. Those dreams and passions you’ve been putting on the back burner for a more convenient time. And I’m here to tell you that time ain’t ever going to happen.
Yes of course you may not be able to go full steam ahead and devote an enormous amount of time and energy to pursue your dreams but you can start small and you can start NOW! Do what you can, invest even the smallest amounts of time and energy, and let what you are creating grow and build at the rate at which you can manage it. In time you will be able to do more and build more momentum.
Let me offer some more friendly advice…
First, Commit. This will get things rolling.
I love this quote:
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness concerning all acts of initiative and creation. There is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen events, meetings and material assistance which no one could have dreamed would have come their way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now!” — W.H. Murray
Need I say more?! Of course not but I will say one little thing and that is, committing to your intentions is the first and biggest step you can take to achieving anything.
Start a Mastermind or Inspiration Group or Just ask for help!
Napoleon Hill, in the book, Think & Grow Rich, introduced the concept of the Mastermind Group, which if you don’t know is a group of like-minded individuals who come together to support each other in creating and implementing goals. Mastermind Groups are created as a support network for one’s business or professional and personal endeavors. The group brainstorms ideas for each person’s goals, it gives feedback, it inspires, and it helps one set up accountability structures all in an effort to help each person successfully achieve their personal and professional pursuits.
There are several sites that can help you get started in creating and running a Mastermind Group. But here is a site that may be useful and worth checking out.
I personally like the concept of Collaborative Inspiration Tribes (CIT’s). Okay I just made that up but I think I like it. May need to tweak it a bit but I’ll go with it for now. I love the concept of collaboration, of joining together ideas and talents to create something. I also love the idea of inspiring each other to be creative and achieve awesome things. And we all need inspiration to create.
Then there’s Tribes which fits into my understanding that tribes are made up of like-minded individuals who support one another, have each other’s back and share a collective vision. You could also replace tribe with team or group if that works better for you. The point is to join or start a group that you can draw energy and inspiration from to get your ideas off the ground or off the shelf.
If you don’t want to join or start a group at least muster the courage to ask for help. This isn’t a demonstration of weakness but rather of strength. We all need help sometimes and people love to feel needed. If lack of resources, know-how, or time are keeping you from moving forward with your good intentions then ask for help.
Give people clear instructions on what you need to get the ball rolling on your ideas. The worst thing that can happen is someone may say no to helping you but then you’ll just be right where you started. You’ll eventually get a yes which will lead to the next yes and before you know it the right people will show up at the right time giving you all the help you need when you need it.
I know all too well that us moms particularly need support for our dreams and passions. We simply cannot do great things out in the world without a whole lot of support from friends, family and people who just believe in us. But you’ve got to get out there and ask for the support you need when you need it.
Short on start-up capital?
Try using Kickstarter, which is an amazing site for raising just the right amount of funding for your creative projects. I love this concept and can totally see the life-changing effects this forum for support of creative endeavors can have in the world. So please not only support projects but also raise funds for your own.
Again, let me reiterate, collaboration is a good thing and an excellent way to make shit happen. Sometimes we just need to join forces with other talented and creative people to make great things happen. We’ve seen the genius of collaboration in music, for example in the collaborations of John Coltrane & Miles Davis, Michael Jackson & Paul McCartney, Elton John & Bernie Taupin, Jimmy Jam & Terry Lewis (who have written hits for Michael Jackson, Janet Jackson, and Mariah Carey to name a few), and in innovative and business partnerships such as Hewlett & Packard, The Wright Brothers, Bill Gates & Paul Allen, Steve Jobs & Steve Wozniak, Ben & Jerry, Larry Page & Sergey Brin of Google which has literally changed the way we live, work and play.
There’s a reason these partnerships have been so successful. It’s because when the vision of great minds and great ideas come together it becomes like an unstoppable force that produces, well, really cool shit. So if you recognize your own brilliance but have been putting off sharing it with the world maybe you should collaborate with another brilliant mind and see what you can produce and make happen together.
What is sad is there is not one example above of two women collaborating. I’m not saying there are no examples but what immediately came to mind were all-male collaborations. I need some top-of-mind examples of women collaborating. I know it’s happened and is happening but I’m blanking here so please share your own stories of collaboration or ones you know of.
Just Do it!
We all know this as Nike’s tagline but it should also be our mantra when it comes to combating procrastination and getting off our butts to get things done. Actually I’d modify it a bit to – Just do the damn thing already! Or it could be Do Something, ANYTHING! The point is to command yourself to (and I love this saying by the way if you can’t tell) Make Shit Happen, to start by putting one Nike foot in front of the other, one step at a time. Or if you like trains, to pull the train out the station and start the journey even if you’re not sure what the final destination is, which leads me to…
Learn as you go and be willing to make mistakes along the way.
You can’t possibly have all the answers or know where something will ultimately lead. Sometimes, actually most of the time you just have to step out on faith and see where your good intentions will lead, what doors will open, what lessons you need to learn through the actions you take in an effort to make meaningful and powerful contributions in the world.
…And please don’t over think things.
This one gets me in trouble a lot. I’m constantly researching, analyzing, and weighing the pro’s and con’s of some decision, trying to figure out the best scenario but I realize that the problem with such deep analysis is that sometimes we can think ourselves right out of doing anything or over complicate the situation when the answer is just to go with your gut. Look closely at what your authentic self is whispering to you if it’s not loud and clear.
We all have an inner knowing that we can tap into but you have to block out the noise, trust your instincts, and do what feels right and authentic. What resonates with you? Where is your heart leading you? What does your soul long for? What do you love? What is the “hell yeah” test telling you to do or not do?
Having great books on a bookshelf that you never crack open and read is a waste of space and certainly doesn’t help your intellectual bottom-line. Good intentions are meant to be lived and acted upon like great books are meant to be read. I mean what’s the point of having dreams and great ideas if you don’t pursue them? So let’s stop wasting our human potential and get about the business of, yeah you know what I’m going to say…MAKING SHIT HAPPEN! Maybe that should be the title of this post.
Okay so leave your comments below and share with us what intentions you plan to take off the shelf and get moving on. And if you liked this post please pass it on…tweet it, Facebook it, google+ it, Pin it. It’s all good.
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